It’s My Birthday!
I turn 28 this week! I’ve listed out 28 lessons I’ve learned. This is a tradition I’ve been doing every year to celebrate my birthday. I think two things can happen during another birthday — first, women have a weird relationship with age. There is definitely a negative stigma with women getting older. Your value doesn’t change with age!!! I want to keep celebrating my age and who God is creating me to be. Secondly, I never want to stop growing. I don’t mean height (I’ve stopped growing that way around twelve-years-old at 5 foot 2 inches). I never want to stop growing as an individual, as a professional, as a friend, a wife… I want to continue to learn no matter what. This exercise has been really good for me to look back on. I try to list out as many lessons as I can from this year. I hope you can learn something too!
- Change is good, but with new something has to die. It’s ok to grieve change.
- When angry, take a walk. At this point you have nothing good to say until you cool off.
- Complaining about God is grumbling while complaining to God is a Psalm.
- Putting your identity in what Jesus did for you instead of other titles you give yourself (radio engineer, therapist, wife, daughter, friend…) grounds you like nothing else!
- It’s good to make memories with just your spouse.
- You have to put the work into your marriage.
- Everyone is emotional. Emotions and feelings are the things that pull up your memories. If you have memories you have emotions.
- Having a planner helps!
- Life isn’t a game — someone else’s gain isn’t your loss.
- If you are getting overwhelmed by your planner, get a daily one and only focus on one day at a time.
- Get a cordless vacuum.
- Shop less and buy better.
- Take yourself (what you do, your art, your profession…) seriously (because then others will too) !!!
- A lack of support killed more dreams than a lack of competence ever did.
- Teach the Bible because it is life changing.
- Jealousy is soooo sneaky and destroys relationships.
- Invest in yourself because no one else will.
- A great way to grow is to serve others.
- Listen and learn from other cultures. When you do, you actually learn about yourself too.
- Hard is good.
- Grace is God’s action in our lives to accomplish what we can’t do on our own – Dallas Willard.
- When you’re afraid of failing, tell someone, remember a time you failed and lived, and then list the things that you’ve succeeded in.
- Gas your friends up!!! Support those in your circles like crazy.
- Healthy doesn’t always mean skinny.
- Have faith like Joseph.
- God really does meet you in hard times.
- If you’re a pastor’s wife, join a pastor’s wife support group! Your church family isn’t going to be the place you get recharged and that’s ok.
- Speak. You have something good to say. You also have permission to heal.
Wow! It has been a hard year, but I wrote those 28 lessons so fast. It’s amazing how hard things teach you the best lessons. Which one are you currently learning? Let me know in the comments.
— Hannah Lynn